Tag Archives: Love

True Love’s Algorithm

Looking for love? Want a lasting relationship? Content with your singleness, but enjoy solid friendships?

cropped-HealthInkLogo-1.jpgLove predominates many conversations this time of year. Whether you celebrate Valentine’s Day, Singles Awareness Day (SAD) or avoid the whole thing, the deep seated desire to connect with others in meaningful affection is a recurrent impulse. What satisfies that yearning?

There are over 124 million singles in the Unites States, many of whom are looking for a partner.  The promise of finding that perfect someone is the hook of online dating sites and apps.  A billion dollar industry numbering over 2500 sites in the U.S. alone, these match-making services use complex algorithms to gauge compatibility.  It’s all about the numbers.  The hope is they lead to higher connectivity rates and more permanent bonds.

But do mathematical formulas equate to true love? Is there more to the science of love than a personality matrix? Can we go even deeper?  Read more…

Throwing some light on the subject

To put out a fire, throw water on it. To stop shivering, throw on a coat. And in a broader sense, to erase the darkness of ignorance and fear, which often leads to malice and hate, throw light on it.

HealthInkLogo (1)My little granddaughter, Anna, and I were playing in my office one day.  She was not in a very good mood when she purposely turned on my floor lamp. One of its lights points downward, so I put my hands under it, pretending to amass as much light as I could and threw it on her.

She proceeded to do likewise, cupping her tiny hands under the bulb and tossing what she had collected in my direction. This game went on for some time, each of us gathering the light, pouring it on the other’s head, gleeful over our cleverness.  Read more…

 

Not So Random Acts of Kindness

World Kindness Day is November 13th, a global 24-hour celebration dedicated to paying-it-forward and focusing on the good

 

Ever feel impelled to give the world a big hug? We thrive on kindness. And though we frequently witness examples of callousness both in our own lives and in the news, displays of intolerance and indifference should only strengthen a desire to resist such behavior and encourage respectful relationships.

A look-out-for-yourself mentality is unnatural. We start out in life as sharers. Through their constant caregiving, the vast majority of moms and dads instill in us the capacities of empathy and generosity.

That nurturing is health-giving to children.  And it endures into adulthood.   Encouragement and kindheartedness foster wellbeing not only in recipients, but in contributors as well. Stephen Post, Director for the Center for Medical Humanities, Compassionate Care, and Bioethics at Stony Brook University, recently quoted the Book of Proverbs when speaking before a group in Cleveland:  “A generous person will prosper; whoever refreshes others will be refreshed.”   Read more…

Boots on a spiritual rock

Wednesday, November 11, marks the observance of Veterans’ Day in the U.S. This is a reprint of an earlier column.

“Nothing can separate you from the love of God,” she gently spoke to him.  With all the confusion surrounding them, she continued to pray with the man she was kneeling over.  It was September 11, 2001.

One of the first female chaplains ever called to active duty, Retired Colonel Janet Horton has had some pretty intense experiences.  In her distinguished career as a Christian Science Military Chaplain, she has seen duty around the globe helping the men and women who serve in the military to keep soul and body together.

Returning to the States after her overseas deployment, Horton was hoping for a post in Georgia. She was assigned to the Pentagon.  At the time she considered it a questionable assignment at best.  “I thought this was a big mistake” she said when I spoke with her, but through prayer she came to the conclusion that God doesn’t slipup.   She eventually came to realize that she was at the right place at the right time.

The morning of September 11, 2001…Read more…

Boots on a spiritual rock

Tuesday, November 11, marks the observance of Veterans’ Day in the U.S. This is a reprint of a column that appeared last year.

 

“Nothing can separate you from the love of God,” she gently spoke to him.  With all the confusion surrounding them, she continued to pray with the man she was kneeling over.  It was September 11, 2001.

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One of the first female chaplains ever called to active duty, Retired Colonel Janet Horton has had some pretty intense experiences.  In her distinguished career as a Christian Science Military Chaplain, she has seen duty around the globe helping the men and women who serve in the military to keep soul and body together.

Returning to the States after her overseas deployment, Horton was hoping for a post in Georgia. She was assigned to the Pentagon.  At the time she considered it a questionable assignment at best.  “I thought this was a big mistake” she said when I spoke with her, but through prayer she came to the conclusion that God doesn’t slipup.   She eventually came to realize that she was at the right place at the right time.

The morning of September 11, 2001 saw the World Trade Center in New York under attack and United Flight 93 crashing into a Pennsylvania field.   Then at 10:10am American Flight 77 hit the Pentagon.

The nose of the plane that struck the building hit the rear of the personnel area.  There was an explosion and fireball.  Read more…